It’s a bright summer day. You and your girl are on the picnic cloth, and sandwiches and pie are on the menu. You hug each other and after that everyone goes home happy. Now, a lot of people seem to like that idea for a perfect date. For the others though, the idea of milk, honey, and flowers is too cheesy and lame.
For the perfect date, guys look at it as something fun, nerve-wracking, and full of adrenaline. The anatomy of the perfect date is similar to that of a well thought out action flick: The setup, the confrontation, and finally, the resolution. Following the three-act structure can surely keep everyone off of their phones for the date’s whole duration.
First timers tend to forget the three-act structure and become victims of a dull and dry rendezvous. These guys are the ones who think that nice guys always win while experienced men will tell you otherwise that a nice guy always gets a good time. It pays to put some spice and thrill into a date instead of sticking to the old ways.
What’s amazing is that cool guys are mindful of what they say to their dates. What defines a cool guy from a creep is how they handle the situation. For example, a cool guy will say “So, you wanna get something to drink after this?” Instead of being a creep by saying, “Where do you wanna sleep tonight?”
Still not convinced? Take note of what the cool guy said above: “So, you wanna get something to drink after this?” This line is part of the three-act structure mentioned earlier. It’s better to know each of these acts to get a more in-depth view of what the three-act structure is, and how effective it can get.
Disclaimer: Always respect a woman’s decision. A no is a no. Cool guys know when to call it quits and know how and when to strike.
Setting up means the guy is setting the tone and mood of the date. Let’s be frank here; guys would want nothing more than to sleep with his lady on the first night out. This desire is not entirely impossible to do, but if a guy overdoes it, then expect a slap and a future restraining order from the cops.
Setting the mood is what a guy can do to extend the time he spends with her date. A movie date doesn’t have to end after the movies. It could be after you both wake up in a king size single bed. It all depends on how the guy sets up the mood.
A common mistake a lot of men make at this stage is that they let the girl decide. This move is a big no for a lot of women because it makes them feel that the man is fickle minded and weak. Always go for the initiative and avoid saying things like, “Do you have somewhere else to go?” or “Do you know a place where we could hang out?” DO NOT ever ask these types of questions because it will make you sound like an obnoxious parasite.
If you’ve made it to this stage, then rejoice. You’re almost there. At this point, everything you do is to create a lasting memory for the both of you. Let’s be honest; one night stands can be the basis of some relationships. It may sound wrong, but that’s the reality.
Another fact to take in is that this stage is another “Setting up” or preparation for whatever the two of you want to do together. A man has to take charge and get the place ready and romantic. An excellent tool for setting the mood is to light scented candles. Dim lights are useful sensual cues for a woman to notice that you want to get down with her.
Remember, foreplay is always important. Cool guys know when to start slow and gentle. Show her that you care by caressing soft spots on her body. A woman will notice if you’re tense because guys who end up being nervous tend to get rough quickly.
Another Disclaimer: Don’t ever make the mistake of touching a drunk woman. This stupid act could become grounds for rape. Weak men capitalize on this because a woman is powerless at this point. The challenge here is to respect and show charm at the same time. Getting freaky under the sheets should be pleasurable to both you and your lady.
This stage is what most men are looking forward to when they’re looking for a relationship to blossom. Again, everything you do at this period is still crucial. If you think that it’s over because you slept with her, think again.
Show respect by always waking up first. Never let a woman wake up first and leave you hanging. By waking up first, you are showing your sincerity to her and that you want to spend more time with her. Prepare breakfast and serve it to her in bed. Nothing beats breakfast in bed after a good night’s action.
If all goes well, then your new friend will more likely want to spend another date with you. If not, respect the decisions she’ll make. Don’t force yourself on her because that is not cool.
What separates cool guys from creeps is how they handle situations. During crucial moments, a cool guy remains calm, while a creep grows obnoxious. Cool guys are charming and understand the three-act structure. Knowledge of this plan greatly increases a cool guy’s chance of going all the way with his lady.
Most of all, cool guys respect and value their partners. Whenever a woman says no, the cool guy complies. A cool guy doesn’t drag his lady to his king size single bed. He does not force anything and knows when to call it quits. Being a cool guy is maintaining a positive outlook, even in the face of rejection.