Women are emotional and are most of the times mistaken as week and feeble.
Women are a supple and delicate but strong and bold too. Their bringing up crafts them very patient that makes them misinterpreted as weak and needy and they fall prey to emotional abuse. Emotional abuse is a sort of behaviour that makes her feel sick and pulled down without beating, hurting physically or hitting. She is smacked not by hands but with statements and sarcastic expressions. She is convinced that she is avoided and ignored deliberately.
It is a language and conduct intended to humiliate and demean a person. It attacks the self- confidence and personality of the sufferer who in most cases are women. They face emotional abuse by their families and love partners. It ranges from yelling, abusing, bullying, dismissing, and making her presence a waste and unimportant. She is kept away from vital decisions like finances and social gatherings. Life partner pretends to walk sideways avoiding any physical contact apart from bed.
If your partner also becomes hot-tempered just on slightest provocation mind it you are up to facing emotional abuse.
In unfortunate case, if you are a victim of emotional abuse then you must learn how to deal with it. First of all you must be aware of few symptoms of emotional abusers. They are a blamer, resentful, sarcastic, cunning, pushy, and jealous and reflect a superiority complex.
So to avoid a future shock identify these symptoms and control them right there instead of becoming used to his miserable behavior. It may be difficult to do that but not impossible. As soon as you detect the controlling and dominating behavior of your partner don’t accept it but challenge it and dismiss it.
You should not live with it but you should make him learn to leave it and be friendly and supportive. First of all, you have to understand the reason behind his behavior. In most cases, abusers are frustrated, anxious, and depressed souls but that does not allow him to throw it on you abusing you and torturing you emotionally. Tell him in clear words looking eye into eye that you will not take this on you. Be calm and maintain peace because if you lose patience and tranquil it may happen that the blame comes to you and he gets another opportunity to demean and disgrace you.
Just stand up to him and challenge him with full confidence which may put him down as what he attacks is your confidence and if show him he is not successful, it will definitely affect him. Let your expressions help your stern and strong words becoming more effective. Don’t show that you are shameful and hurt as a man targets the self-esteem of a woman. Look into his eyes with confidence and tell him to stop teasing you and treat you equally with respect and dignity. Be rational and emotional because it is where you may feel drowned.
You may try to tackle the situation by acting positive and changing topic to a more positive or a humorous one. But in extreme cases of emotional abuse, you may take stronger and bold decision as of breaking away and leaving him. In such cases you may face social and family criticism and named intolerant, fussy, needy and sick but it’s your life and no one will feel as much pain as you do. Instead of succumbing to it in name of social shame you should go ahead and protect your dignity.
You may seek help from family advisers, counselors, social agencies and even law. Do not support any act of any person which may be emotionally abusive even if they are your family or outsiders. Always stand against it maintaining your buoyancy and grace. In no case should you lose serenity as losing it may turn you to a culprit instead of a victim? Leave fear and move ahead believing in yourself and being in love doesn’t give anyone a right to hurt and humiliate you.
Author: Amit Kumar
Amit is the founder of YoursNews. This is a next generation blog, proved that blogging is an art; focus on valuable ideas and genuine stories, rest everything will fall into place.
